What We're Getting Into

I think one of the most common things Daniel and I hear when people - mostly strangers - find out that we have another child on the way is "Wow! You're going to be busy!" This response usually makes us laugh and sometimes has us being kind of snarky talking about it after the fact. It's not that we blame people for saying it, but it's kind of up there on the annoying scale with "Wow! You sure are in for a lot of changes now that you're pregnant/having a baby!" Really? We sort of thought the hardest part was just getting pregnant and that having kids would be like a life long vacation that is without any obstacles and actually makes us money. Yawn.

We know people mean well when they laugh at how we will never sleep again and how we'll be changing two kids diapers indefinitely. We know it's hard to resist pointing out that it was practically yesterday when I was pregnant with Zoe. Ahem.

The thing is, and you're going to be shocked by our advanced concept of thought... are you ready? Being a parent isn't easy, duh! Aside from the fact that we don't know what it's like to actually have a toddler and a newborn at the same time, we do have a rough idea of what we were getting ourselves into. At this point in the game it's actually more helpful for us to focus on the joys of this pregnancy, on how Zoe will enjoy having a sibling, and how having two children will add to our lives exponentially - in love, laughter... and yes, bills and poop.

Not to say I don't understand the various responses. People want to commiserate; share what they've been through as parents. And I totally get that it may seem crazy that we're having another baby right now because sometimes I feel like we just brought Zoe home and now we're almost at the halfway mark of this pregnancy. It's wild! But we're still in this euphoric state right now and it feels good to ignore those thoughts of sleep deprivation because, well that sleep loss and stress is worth every single minute we get to spend with our kids.

Call me crazy, but I can't wait.

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